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Memo to this particular adoption expert....the fact that I MENTIONED the adoption cost (there has to be one right?) was part of my anger. And let's not forget that anger is sometimes a part of divorce. Hence, there should be NO JUDGEMENT here (I've mentioned this before).

Question to you.....Ever been abused in any way, shape, or form? Have you ever been on the other side of the coin? Is it fair to say that you're here because you are either divorcing, divorced or been longtime divorced.

Get off your high horse, ladies [/quote]

1. many people on this board ARE adoption experts as many are adoptive parents.
most of the time they just dont mention the 'adoptive' part as, for most of them it is irrelevant.
For all you know, *I* AM an adoption expert.
Hell i could run an agency,
be an adoptive parent,
and been adopted myself.

2. i have suffered abuse.

3. yes. i have anger.
but not at you i dont know you so why would i bother caring enough to HAVE any anger?
and i did not find i aimed any anger at you.
however i can see that it could be interpreted that way.

4. oddly, at first i found you post to be merely information getting, with a few ways of communicating to be lacking. (such as mentioning who paid for the adoption int he same paragraph as the fact that you feel you should have full custody.)
i was thinking it was just one of those thought processes where thoughts all run together in one paragraph but that Most LIKELY you didnt mean anything negative by it.

however, (oh....now i AM on my high horse)
the more you post, well the more you are sounding
not so nice (on the low end)
OR
like a complete [censored] [censored] on the high end.

i do not find my responses to have been worthy of the responses you have given ME.

do not [censored] with people on this board when you are new and no NOTHING about their back ground.

the VERY things you are claiming others to know nothing about
are ACTUALLY situations many of us have intimate experience with and could relate to your senario and offer advise.

but, your are quite the little bridge burner on this thread.
id be curious what kind of communication expert you are in the real world.

file for divorce.
if youre this charming in your marriage,
you wife will only shed tears as she picks up the yardwork slack. otherwise you will be nothing but a distant memory.

i hope she find your thread here.
the court will love that opening paragraph as to why you should have custody of your 'adopted' daughter who your family 'paid' the cost of.

gotta love that qualification....this is my daughter, she's adopted...what the [censored]! i mean who CARES! about that aspect. she's your daughter and that's where that should end!

those qualifcations you posted
make you sound like a real bonded caring Daddy.
go with that.

step back, SIR.
you are getting out of line.

and dont bother correcting me
or whatever little nasty message you want to
respond with.

i will no longer respond to your posts.

by the way...have you met JBAR?