Three years ago my X would give my daughter a letter to give to me. She was five at the time. Later my X would have my daughter write mean hatefull things to me. The judge addressed this in court and put an end to it. But I have a problem that puts my daughter back in the middle again. As many of you know my daughter has a problem that causes her to soil herself uncontrolably. We've been to the doctor and it is caused by mental stress and a physical problem. Meds, diet and self confedence are very emportant to solve the problem. Also knowing how she is doing on a daily basis is emportant. We had a party last weekend when she was with my X. Pizza and cake both things my daughter can not have without her meds. My daughter started crying because of all this. Her grandad told her something and it just made it worse. I had to tell my X FIL to go get it. Until then I had to calm my daughter down. Then friday my wife and I went to have lunch with our kids, same age same school, for only the second time all year. My X fil showed up and just sat there didn't eat and didn't talk. I had taken a nice meal that my daughter ate most of but she wanted something else. I just told her after she ate everything on her plate then she could get something else.

Now I have a full page letter from my X telling me to stop denieing my daughter food and that she got sick last weekend after the party because of me. I asked my daughter about it and she said no she didn't get sick Saturday but two days before when she was over there for dinner. Just what my daughter told me when I picked her up that evening. I questioned her about it and she just kept saying she didn't get sick. I finally said are you sure you mom said you did. Maybe I shouldn't have said because my daughter called her mom on the phone and asked her why she was lieing and corrected her mom about the date. I didn't mean to put my daugher in the midle like that but what can I do if her mom just keeps making things up.