I just lost custody of my three year-old daughter to her dad, and I am now figuring out he is a sociopath. Truly. I love that line: "Don't feed the beast" - any ideas of how I can go about this? His main trigger seems to be money. He was pissed when I finally was awarded child support, and now he is smug about the payback that I "owe" him. My gut says he will get bored with her soon, as long as I don't let him know how hard this is for me. In fact, I am thinking it might be wise to visibly enjoy the freedom this situation will afford me. He basically gets pissed any time I seem to be enjoying my life, and actually relaxes when I am in a state of turmoil.

This situation is especially challenging for me, because I lost my eldest child years ago at birth. I went through so much to have our daughter, and as soon as I asked for a separation, he relocated to another city with her (she was 10 months old at the time). It's been a legal nightmare. He works in children's mental health, and he really does a great job passing himself off as the reasonable, concerned father, all the while brutalizing me in private. No one sees this side of him at all - he totally snowed the custody evaluator. He has caused a few very long-term friends of mine to turn against me completely. He had LISTS of people willing to testify to his great fathering ability. I felt completely crazed for a long time. Now I understand.

Any ideas/tips of how to move forward at this point? I am afraid if I start talking about him as a sociopath he will only escalate, and I will end up looking like the lunatic (again).

Thanks so much!!