I have been thru this. Believe it or not, it has turned out well. Although I am going thru my second divorce (a whim), I will address the fist just for you. My kids stay with me a week...him a week. They have become very diversified and we all (me,ex, his new wife) have learned to interact for the benefit of the children. No, I didn't think things would go in this direction, but looking back, I am pleasantly surprised. I took the time I had/have alone, without my children, to focus on work,hobbies, reading, and friendships. I never disrespected their dad to them, and it has payed off. My children love the time we both spend with them. They have "2 homes" and can bring their friends to either. They appreciate the fact that their dad, his wife, and I respect each other. We all have a pact that the kids will not "play us" against each other. I'll admit, it was a struggle to get to this point but now the kids have the best of both worlds. With NO FUSSING AND FIGHTING! The quote I have kept on my refridgerator thru all of this is........IF YOU'RE GOING THRU HELL, KEEP GOING. Bless you...and know that nothing is as bad.....or as good........as we perceive it at the moment.