Well he can't go back for more custody because I already agreed to 50/50 and we have a set parenting agreement for a reason. Just because he changes his mind arbitrarily does not mean I have to agree. We literally have every holiday split and assigned, and that was for a very good reason.
Fortunately I DON'T have to be manipulated by him or put up with his bs. And I am so glad and grateful that I do have a court motion filed to protect my own rights. As far as being reasonable, I think I am being realistic when I say no communication is necessary. I find myself much more forgiving and happy when I don't speak to him.
Our lives are totally separate. That is reality. And in order to be calm and collected, I have to follow the old adage, "If you can't say anything nice, don't say anything at all."
That's not to say I don't want him to be happy with his new gf. I think they should have a happy ending. I hope that he can be a better man with her. Lord knows we were never happy together and I hope that he can offer my daughter some stability in his home and a genuine loving relationship. I don't want him to be miserable and stuck in a relationship he didn't want because she got pregnant. If he is miserable, chances are he will try to make me miserable too.
And I would so much rather have a peaceful life where I don't have to deal with an [censored] for an ex. Maybe if he's happy with her, he can stop trying to tell me how to be a parent and start focusing on getting a job to pay for his two kids. Ha.