As I get close to finalizing my divorce, we have come to a difference of opinion on how long the kids should stay with each parent. Right now we have defined that the kids will stay with a parent for three weeks, with a weekend break in the middle with the other parent, then swap that time frame.

I understand that this is a equal arrangement, we'll each get the same time with our kids. What I wish is that the we could reduce the length of the stay, three weeks seems too long to me for the kids to be away from one parent. Granted we've agreed that we can visit and see our kids when they are with the other parent but I am hoping to change my x's thoughts on the length. There is no "wool over the eyes" attempt here, I just want to try and make a compelling case that we are both comfortable with.

I personally feel that one or two week stints are better. I believe that more frequent swaps are good better for all concerned. It seems to me that it equips both parents to be more involved in what the kids are doing at school, with their friends, and any other outside forces. In effect the parents are keeping up with the thoughts of their kids and can act or react to most situations better.

Hoping for feedback on this, either for or even contra to what I think, as I want the best for my kids but do think shorter durations are better. What are your thoughts? What advice would you have to help substantiate the idea that would help me mediate an amicable agreement?