I swap weekly on fridays with my ex. My kids are 2 and 5. Its up to the parents to make it feel like home not the time spent at each place. We have been doing this for the 9 months, the first couple of switches were a little troublesome but since then the kids think it is normal and have shown absolutely no problems with switching. One thing to make it feel like they are home and not visiting is to make sure they have their own stuff at each house so they are not lugging suitcases back and forth, to me nothing undermines a home feeling as having to unpack a suitecase. They each have a blanket or bear they like that they do take back and forth but they fit easily in their normal backpack stuff.

If you have a different tast in clothes than she does, my ex has the worst taste in clothes so I make sure that they wear the clothes I picked them up in when I drop them off. So far she caught on to what I was doing and does the same thing, I only lost a couple of nice outfits each before she realized what was going on, never even had to say anything.

Another thing to pay attention to when swapping that often is to be sure that you pick up your share of the haircuts and try to make the doctor appointments during your week. Nothing fuels a fight faster than one ex telling another they made an appointment and committed them to figuring out how to make it or everytime your kids come to your house they are shaggy and you have to arrange to get their haircut on the fly. Basically it boils down to working with each other and realizing the parents got divorced not the kids and start behaving accordingly, it's not their fault and they didn't ask to be in the situation so the least we can do is make it as painless as possible.

Just some random thoughts from someone the has 50/50 custody week on week off.