I have the same issue. Only, my stbx is really far away (10 hrs), so that's his excuse. No money for gas. He's seen his son a total of 2 days in the past year. No kidding. In the beginning, my poor son (6 yo) would always ask for him. I think as time wore on, he got tired of asking, and being lied to by his dad. So, he's mostly resigned to only seeing his dad on rare occasions.

Their contact is via phone, and that's only when dad remembers to call. He's supposed to do that every Weds at 7PM so we can plan for it, but that only happens once every 2 or 3 weeks. It's pitiful.

Just love your daughter as much as you can. Tell her you're a perfect family just the way you are. You'll be OK. Kids are really smart and can figure out what's going on pretty quickly. Just keep telling her that her daddy will see her when he can. And that he loves her.