Your ex sounds like my ex. It took me a long time to realize that I can just hang up the phone and that I don't have to listen to his bs, or that I can just walk away from him. It's amazing how much better I feel about myself without him around to put me down.

He does the same thing regarding vacations - we are supposed to give 30 days notice. He'll wait until the week before and ask for a week. God forbid if I have already made plans for my daughter - I'll get harrassed by him. One time I actually had to take the phones off the hook because he wanted her for a week's vacation with two days notice and my daughter and I were going away to visit relatives so I said no. I can understand how 30 days notice can be difficult but two days? I'm supposed to just sit around all summer and not make any plans for the time my daughter is with me just in case he decides he wants vacation time.

I hope your ex becomes happy with the girlfriend and stops using you for his anger outlet. It's so true...!