my girls are at their dads for the start of a whole week with him. they called to say goodnight and my older one had tears in her voice. she proceeded to tell me that daddy and "t" were fighting again and that "t" left.

this is not the first time this has happened. i'm finding out that my girls are witnessing many fights between stbx and his gf. and this is not the first time the gf has left. why does stbx do this to my girls? doesn't he see that the girls have been through enough this last year? now here i sit with tears in my eyes because i can't hug them. and i sit and wonder what are they facing being there for a whole week. i can handle my pain from the divorce (which is pretty much gone-thank god), but i can't handle my kids' pain. i hate that they are reliving nasty times. did stbx really think that a relationship built on lies was going to last? did he not think of the kids' feelings during any of this?

it's going to be a crappy week.