When you are dealing with idiots that don't get that is all about the kids, it never gets easier. My suggestion for you is, whatever your daughter wants to participate in, back her up 100%, don't say anything to your X, get her the equipment she needs, pay whatever fees are due and get her back and forth to practice, carpool if you can, and just take care of business. Your is is a selfish pain in the a ss and it will only get worse. So suck it up and enjoy every smile on your daughter's face, every kick made. You get my drift. Enjoy this time, it goes by really fast--trust me! Don't ask his opinion, permission are anything else. He is pissed about the child support and he will never get see past it!