I see I have to clarify some things... Keep in mind that I wrote that initial post at about 3am so maybe some things got jumbled.

I did not leave college because of my parents. I was incredibly stressed out to the point where I was crying when I left class. I was spending at least 8 hours a day working outside of class on projects and homework. This is why I am taking some time off. I love learning and I love that environment. In my time off I have been looking into schools to attend.

Gigi, you make it sound like my mom is just sitting at home all day watching t.v. and eating bon bons while my dad is slaving away. Not the case! My mother worked for the 1st 10 years of their marriage. It was a mutual decision between her and my dad that she quit because my dad was gone so often and there were 4 children under the age of 10. My dad has the type of income where he can comfortably support a huge family all on his own. He is a professional athlete, owns a gym and has a clothing line. We had a pool installed 2 years ago and my mother paid for it all on her own. We don't rely on our dad/husband for every little thing.

As for the comment about us adult kids not pulling our weight: We were not allowed to hold jobs in high school. We were told to focus on our studies and sports. We worked summer jobs though. We were also encouraged not to have a job during our first year of college but I decided to. My sister just graduated from high school last month. My older brother just graduated from college and is only home for the summer before heading out on his own. He is paying for most of his college tuition himself. Our parents set aside a certain amount for us all and if we went over that then we had to take out loans and pay for it ourselves. I was living on my own, supporting myself financially but like I said, due to unfortunate circumstances, I had to move back home for a little while. I will be living on my own by the end of the summer. While we are home we are helping our parents out around the house, running errands, supporting our younger siblings with their school and sports.

My nana pays for all of her own things. She does not rely on my dad. My mom is a well respected cook and caterer. Just because she doesn't work a steady job doesn't mean she's not making any money. Yes my dad pays for the majority of what goes on but he was also a part of that decision to do so.

As for the animals, my nana pays for just about everything for our dog and is the main caretaker for the dog. I pay for my cat and take care of him. We all, except for my dad take care of the 3 kittens and rabbit. When my brother moves out, he is taking 1 or 2 of the kittens with him.

My mom did not tell me about my dad's affairs. I found out for myself when I was younger. My mom didn't even know I knew until a month ago. My other siblings don't know about the affairs. She isn't going around telling all of us our dad's little secrets. She only talks with me about the divorce; and when I say she talks with me I mean about how she feels, she asks how I feel, living situations, etc... I asked her to keep me informed. I am not butting my head in, they are dealing with it themselves. My other siblings just found out about the divorce this past week.

I have no problem with the amount of time my dad spends away. I never have. I am not saying that because my mom was around she was "great" or better than my dad. I was just giving some information so that people could better understand the difference between my parents. Maybe I would have received less flack had I just said that my dad is a quiet self-proclaimed workaholic and that my mom is very social and laid back. That's basically what I was getting at. That and, because my mom was home all the time, we are closer with her and my nana. We have very different relationships with our parents, I myself, do not have a problem nor would I want to change either of them.

I am not bitter about the divorce. I think it is a good idea! If my dad can't stay faithful to my mom and they haven't been getting along for years now, why should they stay together? I made the comment "I guess you can sense that I blame my dad mainly for this divorce" because he is the one who filed for divorce. I also said that I don't want to blame anyone. I plan on continuing, to the best of my ability, the same relationships I have with my parents now once they are divorced.

My question, although it may have been lost in all the information, was how can I make my dad not feel like he is hated by us kids if no one chooses to live with him? I said I felt bad for him because I don't think that my younger brothers will want to live with him.