I haven't logged on in for some time, but did today because I'm really struggling with the CoParenting with a Narcissist issue and then I found this post ....

Before the divorce, my kids loved their dad - they were his source of love and admiration. He was best friends with the kids and I was the "Mean Mom" because I was the sole parent.

Well, have things changed. Within a month of the divorce being final, he got a new gf and he's been seeing this same woman now for several months ...

So now he has a new source of love and admiration and the kids no longer play that role. So is he no longer their best friend, and he's become a dictator father.

I won't bother with the details - but all three of my kids are being alienated from their father - the gf is more important to him and they all know it. They are seeing their father for what he truly is. I had expected something like this to happen and it has - his kids are seeing his true colors.

The part of me that hates me my says "Excellent! Your kids know now their dad is a real jerk and that will change their relationship with him, and they will prefer being with me!" My true feelings are actually of sadness, because my kids are going having from a best-friend father to a harsh father, and no child should have to experience that sort of alienation from a parent.

My kids are 15, 18, and 20, so they're old enough to recognize their dad is a cold, emotionless, self-centered person.

They all are upset with how their dad is treating them, and there's nothing I can do but support them and encourage them to stand up to their dad - which none of them will do because he just yells at them. Two of my kids have counselors to help them out.

As their mother, all I can do is offer support and be caring for them.

Thanks for listening - I feel better now.