this was an intersting thread. My x was diagnosed with everything from bi polar to major depressive disorder. My best guess is borderline. He can be very verbaly abusive and mean. He did hit and push me around in the marrage. Now I am 4 years later in a very stable relationship with a wonderful man. Between the two of us we have 4 kids. My 11 year old will not see her dad. He lives out of state and she refuses to get on a plane. My 13 year old is ADD and very much has the emotional ablity of a 9 year old. The last year and I think in response to my upcoming marrage he has told her he is going to get custody of her. He has visitation and I allowed him to select some time this summer after summer school. He only bought her a one way ticket. He tells me that he is going to buy the return ticket and said he would put it in an email to confirm but he has no money. He has never paid support. I am scared to let her go without a return ticket. I don't know my rights if he keeps her.