Dear Sad Mom:
Thanks for your words, i hope can help me and help all the friends here thar are suffering bc the same issue: selfish!!...
I had said that words, specially the ones who relate with loving her father as he is... and that this effort is for her mainly and not for him... I hope some day this words will produce the effect i want to see in my daughter. An hour ago i had a sad conversation (many yellings from her part) just bc i asked her to speak with him, to try fixing the relation with his father... And she was so dissapointed with me, she feel i beleive more in his father, in what he say is the cause of what is happening, and no... i beleive her but also i am tired just receiving phone calls after phone calls from his father saying me he is desperate and doesnt know what to do to resolve the issue, although he lies all the problem, the causes, in his daughter and nothing with him.... and even more, telling me i am acting bad just permiting her not to talk him, that i am causing her a big damage, etc etc etc. So, again, thanks... i really hope this words i had said many times some day cause the effects i want on my child: she in peace and feeling ok, not depress, not sad, bc his dad.