make her go.

my kids cried so hard the first visit that I was crying.

then they cried harder the second visit.

fast forward a year....
and it's 'when do we leave for dad's?'.

it wont always be like this.
it's an ebb and flow.

but if your not concerned for her safety she goes.
otherwise it's not fair to her, your kids, you stbx or yourself.

(wow! i cant believe it's ME saying this stuff. lol)

stbx= soon to be ex spouse.