Her problem with me has nothing to do with him, as I'm definitely not his type, not to mention the fact that part of the reason they're divorcing is he's gay. It has to do with my past and I'm not going into it here. What got me so upset isn't that she has a problem with me. It's that she told both him and I back in July that at one of her meetings she was told how judgmental she was being and that she, with all of her problems, didn't have the right to judge someone else. She told us both that she'd decided my past had nothing to do with how I am today and she wanted to move past it.

The reason she's being hard to deal with now is that she feels he's supporting me and that's keeping him from being able to pay her more money, because she can't meet all her obligations and leave enough for extras. I was able to give him tickets home to his parents over the NYs weekend and gave her and the children each a gift too. She thinks the money I'm using is illegal money, not money I was given from my sister.

She doesn't realize that he's able to do certain things because he goes without other things. For example, we've gotten the children some clothing for when they're here by shopping at Target. She shops at Gap Kids and JC Penny. I buy groceries pretty much when they're on sale and use boxed pasta. She uses the fresh pasta in the refrigerator case at the store. I buy store brand items, she buys name brand. It does make a difference.