That's frustrating to READ about. I'm sure being involved is a real pain in the neck. The only place where you still have wiggle room to mess with each other, I guess. Some day, where there's no so many years left to deal with it, maybe you could just surprise her and hand her the check she wants, brush off your hands and count the house not used in calculating and arguing about it as pure profit on the whole stupid mess. It would be almost fun to be able to write a check if the stupid arguments demanding MORE would just stop!