[quote]Time to start scheduling summer activities. And that means it is also time for KGrow and his ex to stoke up the power struggle over reimbursements for extracurriculars.

Our divorce agreement isn't particularly specific about who pays for extracurriculars. We punted during our original negotiations because we couldn't resolve this. The agreement says extracurriculars are to be paid in proportion to income. It also says that a portion of extracurriculars are presumed to be covered by child support money.

My position: We each pay for extracurriculars that happen on our own time. Cost of shared extracurriculars should be split it in proportion to that time (typically 50-50). My child support payments provide the in-proportion-to-income piece for both types.

Her position: We each pay for extracurriculars that happen on our own time (child support payments cover the in-proportion-to-income piece here). Cost of shared extracurriculars should be split it in proportion to income.

I guess I have to resign myself to expecting lower reimbursemnt than I request and dole out the same for her. The amount of money is not huge. It is all a bunch of of absurdity. Often it gets a bit messy as we jockey to have the other to write the check and thus get an opportunity to stiff them on the reimbursement. [/quote]

Well it sounds like it should be proportionate to income for the ones that are shared...usually that's the same for uncovered medical expenses as well, where your percentage of responsibility is in proportion to your income. What type of percentage difference are we talking about?
My 1st ex pays $50 per year for extra curriculars (my sons athletic shoes cost more), however he pays 100% of med co-pays. 2nd ex doesn't pay for ANY extracurriculars. However he is ordered to pay 68% of ANY uncovered medical costs (and I include down to vitamins and maxi pads to his list as they are medical)...so if we had the same split in extras he'd be paying 68% to my 32%, based upon income differences that the court counts (his is actually higher but he was able to hide income, and mine is actually lower as I was imputed full-time income although I work part-time due partially to the medical needs of our son).

So why bother with the power struggle? Just pay the proportionate to income if it's not that big of a difference...