[quote][quote]The problem is the vagueness of what is included in child support.[/quote]

Yes that's exactly right. When we were negotiating this, I said, "Why do I have to pay for this separately when it is one of the stated purposes of child support?"

Her response, "I've seen the numbers, child support is not enough to actually support the children."

And I say, "Well that's because you also need to kick in and do your part to support the children. You also have a financial responsibility to them."

Her response, "No, I stay home and you bring me money. That's how it's always worked. There's no way an intelligent, college-educated person like my self can earn real money."

This was clearly going nowhere good so we put what we had into the agreement and moved on to other issues. [/quote]

Because child support doesn't cover extracurricular activities. At least, ones that are repetitive like tuition for karate.

You set yourself up for one big power struggle when you refused to come to an agreement and worded it the way you did. You can't blame it entirely on your ex.

And to get yourself out of this power struggle, you may have to go to court for clarification or for the judge to decide just how much of the extracurricular activities is covered by child support. Because this isn't going to go away until you do get it clarified.