[quote] Her response, "No, I stay home and you bring me money. That's how it's always worked. There's no way an intelligent, college-educated person like my self can earn real money.[quote]

OMG!!!! I cannot believe she actually said that... out loud. I couldnt finish clollege (financial reasons) and I consiter myself fairly intelligent, I am a full time momma. I go out every day and work for what I need/want. I do not make massive amounts of money, but I am able to hold my own, for the most part... and without consistant child support. I would KILL for the chance to finish school, but all my credits are lost after 5 years, I would have to start over. This mentality is what is wrong with women... WTF wants to be dependant on anybody when the can do for themselves? Sorry.... this is a hot button of mine.... the whole "world owes me" mentality is selfish and immature.

Now... as far as extra curriculars.... how many are we talking? Our kids (DH & mine) can do one paid activity at a time and can do one week at camp. This is fair, and since DH and I put up the money (eventually we should get reinbursed 1/2 for his two & my ex *ha ha ha ha* doesn't even pay support). We do not use support for extra curriculars. If it is worded in your agreement to use support for curriculars I would say the two of you split the remainder 50/50. Say camp is 150.00... support pays 50, you pay 50, and she pays 50. Would this work?