My ex is a bipolar (off his meds) drug addict. After his 8th car accident in 3 years (thank God no kids were in the car) we are going back to court to get supervised visitation. He hasn't complied with the drug testing clause in the custody agreement (do you have something like this?) nor did he ever sign a privacy release so I could get the results of his drug tests (if he ever took one). The best thing I ever did was include that drug testing clause... it specifically says if he fails a test OR DOESN'T SHOW UP FOR ONE it is considered a failed test and he is to move to supervised visitation until he has three clean tests. And including the clause where he was mandated to sign a privacy release so I could get the results ensures that I can actually do something/know the results if he were to take a test.

It was his responsibility to initiate the tests and sign the release and he hasn't. After recent harassing calls and an 8th accident, I'm done with him and his promises to get the drug testing done. He's clearly wacko at the moment.

Didn't I get this divorce so his problems were no longer my problems? Then why do I feel like his problems continue to be my problems?