You said:

Some issues:
I have no problem with the ROFR. But after that he wants to dictate who can watch them and for how long.

My response:

If he refuses to take them if you need a babysitter, he doesn't get to dictate who you have watch them or for how long.

You said:

He wants me to agree to a lower amount and then even lower once our children are in school full time. I me who even know where we will both be in three years!!

My response:

He's about to find out that it doesn't work like that. Don't argue with him. Just tell him that you are going to go by state guidelines. You will, of course, accept a higher amount of child support. But you will not accept less. And leave it at that. Let him argue with himself. There are guidelines for a reason.

You said:

Before going to daycare they were with a friend of the family (four years they were with this women). He does not like her and does not trust her, and now wants
me to agree that the girls only see her at my house while I am here to supervise. I trust her.

My response:

Well, he's going to have a hard time changing that considering how long they have been going to the friend. Unless your friend is a convicted sex offender or been convicted of child endangerment, he won't win this one, either.

You said:

It just picky stuff like that. Once he loses his temper its not a pretty sight. I mean when he found out I filed for support he came looking for me. By my house, my gym, my girlfriends house, etc. Who does that????

My response:

Somebody that you need to be very careful around. Seriously, whenever you have to meet him (even for exchanging the children), bring a witness with you.

You said:

I just want to be strong tomorrow. I can not allow him to get to me.

My response:

Is what he wants in the kids' best interest? From what you have posted, he isn't even thinking about the kids. He's just thinking of ways to screw you. Remind yourself of that. Make a list of what you won't budge on (child support being guidelines would be one of them, your friend providing childcare being another), what you would like, and what you don't really care about. And refer to that list and see where any offer he has falls on that list.