justme... breathe.... calm down. I am where you are. I was sooooo angry a couple weeks ago I could just spit. If your ex did not recieve benifits it could be that he quit or was fired for a reason within his control. Unemployment is not easy to get if you quit, unless you are unable (ha ha ha my ex's excuse) to work medically. Then benefits are only for a limited time. It sucks that he is being this way.... if he doesn't file for modification he won't get one. IF he doesn't pay he will be in arears. You can't make him stand up and be responsible.... ooohhh how I've tried.

Gigi, you are thinking logically as far as why someone wouldn't quit a good paying job. Let me give you some illogical reasons.... Random drug tests, not wanting to go into work consistantly, personality conflicts, disagreements with management, because something more "fun" comes up, being demoted because of poor performance, not being promoted because of average preformance..... the list goes on and on. My ex used to work in the same location as I do.... he quit after he totaled the company work van during unauthorized use. Our boss was going to keep him, but b/c ex would have to work in the building instead of on the road ex felt he should quit. Some people don't think logically or even think beyond the next few hours.