I have me, my daughter, and my STBX on the insurance through my work. Since he is self employeed I am saving him alot on health insurance by keeping him on my policy - but hopefully I can get him off. We have 1 credit card that is in my name and 1 that is in both of our names. I guess what I am saying is that temporary support is given so each party can have an even playing field while the divorce is pending, however this is not an even playing field. All the household bills are in his name except the mortgage and car insurance which are in both of our names.

My biggest grip is every month he circles my lawyer expenses on our statements. When I told my lawyer he did not pay me the other week, he told his lawyer. The response from him to his lawyer was - I still intend on paying however I will be lowering the amount because our mortage went down $75.00. Well everything else keeps going up. Isn't it up to the courts how much he has to pay? I mean I do have to pay my lawyer.