Where is the advice/compassion for "anchor moms"? I have pulled myself out of thr financial pit with a second job and cutting not only to the bone, but into the bone. There was a point where Ramen noodles were my staple when son was away but son's insurance was always paid... he always had lunch money. We had the house payment (greatful to my boss for selline me the property at a rediculiously low monthly payment of 400.00 a month), lights, heat (for the first two winters), truck payment, son's insurance, truck insurance, credit card payment, child care, and all the daily expenses of a child. Ex wrote bad checks and my account was drafted of 800.00 (whole amount that was in there) and there was a "hold" for 1600.00 more. Since it was right after payday, I was running around cancelling checks so they wouldn't bounce. Since Son's savings account was attatched to my name, it was raided for the little bit (350.00) that was in there. I was sunk.... the anchor had fallen into the depths. My co-worker gave me 800.00 so I could cover my bills. It took me six months to pay him back, but I did. Do I have sympathy for a man who has to pay 20% of his salary to support his child.... no i do not.