Take your numbers and his and plug them all into the formulas for your state to see what comes of it. Add in the trasnportation costs and entire extracurricular costs and insurance and everything else the state allows you to add in. Don't mess with trying to add in toothpaste. Calculate the abatement for the summers. Add in the other kids as Others that he has to support if there's a place for it in the formula, but realize that he knew at the time he adopted all those kids that he already had an obligation to his older child.

Figure out what the numbers would be if you really went through the state. Don't take your lawyer's word for it, you do the calculations. Attribute a reasonable income to him if you don't already have his true income (tell him that you need his true income numbers as he is supposed to share this with you so that you can have an idea of what you're wroking with). Attribute a reasonable income for yourself and put your own kids into the formula if the receiving parent is supposed to be added into the formula also.

Then go with that amount as a starting point. Take things into consideration like whether or not you moved and should pay the extracurriculars that the father can't attend because you moved away & other such stuff.

Don't mess with ridiculous clauses like that he has to provide toothpaste and shoes because you KNOW waht's going to happen with that stuff! He'll get baking soda and call it toothpaste, flip flops & call them shoes. Get rid of that stuff so that the two of you won't have that junk to fuss over, you won't have to worry abou tit, he won't have to worry about it. If he wants to GIVE the child toys and clothing, that's one thign, but buying what HE wants to get for the kid & calling it child support is ... well, just stupid. He can have a summer vacation with no need for shopping at all if he chooses!!! He can THINK of his total support amount as going towards shoes or toothpaste or whatever, but you'll just have a lump sum to use for your general household expenses including the child, and will no longer have to police him and his shopping habits.

I think you'll both be a lot happier if you stop with the thing where support is being handed out in 20s here, 30s there, and a pair of shoes elsewhere.... from long distance, no less. If you show him the FULL amount of the price of the transportation, and teh FULL amount of the extracurriculars, and the FULL numbers for the clothing & supplies for the school year... then maybe when you offer to take a small percentage of that amount as a lump sum monthly rather than in dribs and drabs that you have to chase after him over... maybe he'll realize that you're doing him a favor by taking it like this rather than making him pay a REAL portion of the TRUE costs of raising the kid!