Please don't let the children choose. They should not have a part in anything involving the divorce. It's not right. They THINK they're old enough to reject Dad, or reject Mom, but that's just not right. Make the judge make the hard decision if Dad or Mom is not a good enough parent, but for as long as the judge has not stripped eithe rparent of their rights, each parent should try to enforce and reinforce the value of the other parent in the children's lives... no matter how much you don't like the other parent.

PLEASE don't let the kids do this. Please don't encourage it if they want to. Don't let them choose sides in the divorce, don't let them choose whether they want to see mom or dad... it's not good for them.

We all know that if some older teens get it into their head that your'e being too strict and they INSIST, that there's no way it will be effective for the parent they don't want to be with to even try, but don't let them think they have a choice... don't let it get that far.