Although I understand and partially agree with what you are saying, this is a completely different situation. This is not a current divorce. We have been divorced for MANY years. My child has lived with her father for several years and BECAUSE he has tried his hardest to drive a stake through my relationship with her, as she grows older, she's learning that I'm not as I've been made out to be. She longs for more time with me and now that she's expressed that with her, he's started to treat her differently. He's doing this to himself by being this way to HER. Now she wants to live with me in hopes that a more limited relationship with him will bring them closer together. For being 15 she's VERY intuitive. There is quite a bit more to this story, but that's the basics. ALL situations are different. And this one, noone encouraged her or told her to decide where she wanted to live. And as I understand it, in Colorado, she has a right to a voice in court.