Change your name only if that is what You want. The ex has no say in the matter. It is alot of hassle to do, since you have to change it with the banks, credit card company, driver's license, car registration, Social Security, work, insurance company...the list goes on.

I kept my former married name until I remarried. I spoke with my son, who was in his late teens and told him I would be changing my last night when I remarried. He responded back "Well, that isn't a problem for me, as I never called you Mrs XYZ, I call you Mom."

Kids can truly put it into perspective, can't they. Of course I am and would forever more be Mom, regardless of what last name I had.

It took me 3 months to get everything changed over to my new married name. I was pleased to do it, but it is a lot of work. Keep your current last name, if you were not contemplating changing it. Tell the ex to grow up and deal with it.