Marsham,

If you are sure that your marriage is over, then you need to take the next step and find yourself a good attorney. I was advised to interview at least three attorneys before making a decision. Go online or check out a book from the library, and arm yourself with a list of questions to ask each one at the initial consultation. Go with the one who comes off as experienced, and who you feel most comfortable with. It is sad, but once you reach the point of no return, you’ve got to have the best attorney looking out for your interests. It’s make or break time! Good luck.