[quote]the decree states that each parent must ask the other to babysit before asking anyone else. I guess that is vague. I know it is nice to wake up with her and get her ready for school, and I can see why he would want to spend that time with her, but I just do not want to spend any time in that house.
I also don't want to make this into a fight with him. Any ideas on how I can approach him with this without causing a freak out session with him? We definitely don't get along very well, and if he feels I am being unreasonable he will react very strongly and go into attack mode.
I do want to be with my daughter though. I don't want to tell him to ask someone else, because I want to be with her.

any ideas?

ps Hi everybody! [/quote]

How far away do you live from your ex?

If you don't want to be there, simply tell him that you are exercising ROFR, just at your house. There is nothing unreasonable about that if you don't live that far apart.

And if he's going to be out late, well, then the child spends the night. If he doesn't like that, then he needs to change his plans.

From what you have posted, it's going to be a fight unless you do it his way.