So, 123 - I am betting you are very sorry you ever posted here. And that would be sad, because we are usually pretty helpful.

Here are some additional observations:
- If you tell a judge that he has never used Christmas visition, his lawyer is going to talk about your controlling the situation to the point that the father could not build a relationship at all.
- If you talk about not wanting him to have vacations - the other lawyer is going to talk about how many nights he has missed with his children.

If he hires a good lawyer, and you do anything even close to the above in writing - you will lose a lot. What most CP have been accused of is being controlling and judges get very crazy on that issue.

Do not answer his request directly. Go through a lawyer. And listen to that person. They are going to give you perspective.

I know this is scary. You are going from 100% to less than and your kids will have an adjustment period. But he is their dad and you have to let him be the dad - on his own turf. You can't control it.

Things you can control:
- Forfeited time is not made up. Write that in the agreement.
- Father has to have a bedroom for the girls.
- Father has to have car seats.

Controlling the environment for them from a safety stand point is something people will support. Putting in reasonable time frames for notice, etc. is something that is supported.

Think about joint custody. It sounds like a huge battle to lose= but it isn't. It means major decisions only like private vs public school. Changing religion.

If he steps up, your daughters win. If he doesn't, it doesn't hurt you and your daughters are young enough to not really get as impacted.