I would get out before you owe permanent alimony. You're already going to owe it, but probably not permanent.

Your wife has gotten lazy because you are carrying the load plus some.

If you don't see things changing, I would pull the plug before it's too late.

Try to get her employed first. Does she have an education/skills?

What state are you in?

I believe your kids can choose who to live with at this stage of the game, but read some of gigi's posts on this.