[quote]I want to say something, but I'm beginning to wonder. If this continues for a couple months. I mean gone all weekend without the kids, would that help me in keeping the kids? How much would she have to be absent for it to matter? At least show instability, I'd think. [/quote]

There are too many variables to give a precise answer . Generally the courts will award custody based on historical factors ( who's doing the majority of the child care , taking the kids to the doctor , etc. ) . What sort of cusodial agreement is she seeking ?