She's no longer a stay at home mother who should be getting the kids during the week & "giving" you every oter weekend. You're their full time parent & the only reason she sees them is you're gone at work during the week. Consinder figuring out how to split the finances well before your planned split, file for divorce and stay in the house, and keep the kids with you. Truly, don't let her call herself a stay at home mom just to get daycare during the week. You can't afford to pay her for this, and she is not exactly being responsible.

Whatever her secret life is, she's not letting you in on it so in her mind, she's divorced already. And in her world, this means dumping the kids on you whenever she wants to ...