[quote]Just moved in two days ago,STBX and 9yr and 12yr girls are staying in the house I built,not bought but built over the course of several years,nicest house in the neighborhood.My drinking and smoking finally pushed her over the edge with no chance of reconciliation.I know what the law says 50/50 and all and with our assets I think I can expect a more realistic 60/40,with the least amount of litigation.Problem is I don't want to fight cuz it will get ugly I know.I just know yrs down the road,knowing some guy is working in my shop sleeping in my bedroom after I gave in to less than 50/50 will kill me.P.S.just venting outloud but I felt I had to leave so the kids wouldn't be displaced.Anyone else out there that can relate? [/quote]

Your reasoning is understandable, but make sure that you can do this realistically I mean are you going to be able to afford this for the rest of the childhoods. What will happen if you can't? Sometimes we need to remember reality and just know that change is going to happen, and just make change as easy as possible. Know what I mean?