[quote]Just moved in two days ago,STBX and 9yr and 12yr girls are staying in the house I built,not bought but built over the course of several years,nicest house in the neighborhood.My drinking and smoking finally pushed her over the edge with no chance of reconciliation.I know what the law says 50/50 and all and with our assets I think I can expect a more realistic 60/40,with the least amount of litigation.Problem is I don't want to fight cuz it will get ugly I know.I just know yrs down the road,knowing some guy is working in my shop sleeping in my bedroom after I gave in to less than 50/50 will kill me.P.S.just venting outloud but I felt I had to leave so the kids wouldn't be displaced.Anyone else out there that can relate? [/quote]

So have you gone out and joined AA? You need to stop drinking(smoking isn't healthy for you, either). For yourself and for your kids. And you will need the support that you can get from AA to help you stop drinking.

While giving up drinking isn't going to save your marriage, it will show your kids that you are taking responsibility for your actions and stopping something that is very unhealthy.