TractorMom - I hear exactly what you are saying and I wouldn't waste my breath (or text) trying to explain it to jbar. He is playing you...making you think you are not being clear enough so he can advance his warped sense of reality.

I, too, had a man who let his parents hand him everything throughout his entire life. It had NOTHING to do with protecting an inheritance from devious money-grubbing women (Phhhht!). I do think his parents thought they were showing their love by supporting him but all it did was teach him that there would always be someone there to help him no matter how lazy or irresponsible he was.

Problem was, I replaced his parents when we married. I thought I was helping him become a better person by not expecting everyone else to solve his problems but I did pay his way throughout the relationship. He was free to pursue his "dream job" while I paid all the bills. He now resents me for the help I gave him. Yup, he actually told me that as an excuse for his affair. He found a woman who is even less responsible than he is so he can feel like a man.

That's his burden. You'll drive yourself crazy trying to be "right" about this. I, for one, think you are 100% right...his parents are doing him no favors by giving him a free ride through life. He will spend the rest of his life thinking the world owes him a living. Karma will get him in the end...angry all the time, blaming everyone else for his misfortune, not taking responsibility for his own happiness...hmm, sounds like someone on this forum?

For every woman that takes advantage of a woman in a relationship, there's a man who takes advantage of a woman. At least we now both know what to avoid in the future, don't we?