There are too many statistics to prove what Stolts and Answerguy are saying. The courts are extremely biased against fathers. Most lawyers will tell you they see PAS in at least 50% of the cases, so you can expect the woman to begin alienating the children from you unless she is the exception, the court will enable her and she will do it for control and money. Also men get custody less that 10% in most states, so dads seeking releif from horrible women end up losing their house,retirement,bank accounts, credit, and ther kids, and do not get rid of the wife but end up paying them money and fighting to see the kids at all. Some give up and decide to save themselves, and then they are derided by mommamia. OK some M/F low lifes only care about themselves, but the deadbeat dad stereotype makes me as angry as the nurturing faithful mommy stereotype.

If you can stand it, for the kids sake, you need to prepare your case and protect yourself. You need to get everything in your name, get your assets squirreled away, lots of preps. Three years need to pass or it looks bad. Start on a tight budget, document everything. You need to be thinking evidence, establishing status quo. If you are that involved with the kids stay so, and make sure you do things with witnesses. If you divorce you're going in with everything overwhelmingly stacked against you so you need to do everything you can to help yourself or you will get scrwed. Get an atty to give you advice. Keep a calendar. Prepare. Don't give up, those kids need a father. The statistics also show what happens to kids that don't have dad to come to. Good Luck.