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...I'm just trying to, in what little time I have anymore, narrow down some possible choices in my area of legal representation. If and when all of this is over, then perhaps I'll join in my thoughts on where things stand in that regard. (in regard to the unecessary nature of most corrupt, confused divorce law)
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Fair enough. I would like that. Obviously, none of the women on these boards is ever going to be willing to honestly discuss the issues I have raised, and for obvious reasons.

If you are not already confused and bewildered enough by all the points to consider when selecting a lawyer, consider this: some attorneys "can't lose a case" in certain courts and others "can't win one". It is almost impossible to figure out in which courtrooms a given attorney seems to be extremely successful, or the opposite, and even if you could you have no control over which judge will get your case. One approach to a solution to this dilemma is to find the "best" (most expensive) attorney in town and put him on retainer immediately. This will prevent your wife from using his services, and when her lawyer sees who your lawyer is, it might make him back off and, if he is honest, inform your wife that she should settle on the best terms she can get from you.

The reasons for the above are almost too disgusting to relate, but have something to do with an attorney having previously angered or embarrassed a judge or, alternatively, in the case of the "best" law firm in the area, always contributing generously to the election campaigns of ALL local judges, even if they are running unopposed! These monies effectively go right into the pockets of these judges, and it is all perfectly legal!

Disclaimer: Not legal advice