In the property forum i have my detailed financial picture but the summary is I only have approx 200 to pay her alimony today. But in a few months, will have 220 more as my car is paid off, then in 5 years i have 526 more i can use to pay her.

So, neither of us have atty yet (i've seen 2 of them though) but i was thinking all my expenses are 'public' knowledge, it's not like they are a secret, so why not just come clean and tell her this is what i can afford now/later and can we agree to that? She already said she needs atty and that's fine, (she's on mental soc sec disability and doesnt trust herself) but i thought if i can get the numbers in her head she may rebuff an atty telling her to go for the jugular and not worry about what i can pay, just that she legally can go for and probably win a settlement i cant afford (1100+ per month)

i guess i'm too logical of a person but i cannot see the downside to fessing up to what is already known and provable on paper? She has no clue about finances by the way. I took care of everything for her until now.

so how can she use this info against me for evil purposes?