I can see that you are still frozen with fear and indecision, even after I have explained to you that you will go mad if you allow the system to turn you into a slave to her for the rest of your life. Of what value is your job, trying to get ahead in life or even providing for your child, if you will be forced to work primarily just to take care of your ex until one of you dies?

You know, the way that our brains are constructed, every time we engage in self-destructive behavour, or allow someone else to use us as a slave, it becomes that much more automatic to behave the same way again. This also applies if you are the one using the other person. Don't let them EVEN GET STARTED assuming that they can keep stealing more and more of the product of your work and talent in this world; it belongs to you. If they insist on stealing it for ANY purpose, the only proper reply is to work until you have satisfied your own needs, then any needs of others which you have VOLUNTARILY accepted responsibility for*, then when they bring up any further demands, which they claim to have a right to make of you, to sit down and tell them where to go!

* The "system" can't have it both ways and insist that you somehow assumed a lifetime responsibility for your spouse's maintenance, because of "vows" or any other reason, when the very jackasses attempting to make such an assertion are essentially the selfsame individuals who created "no-fault" divorce law--providing that your marriage (and these same "vows") can be terminated if "the marriage can no longer be supported". What greater proof could there be that a marriage can no longer be supported than that one party is no longer able to behave--due to disability--as a normal marital partner?