Equal wage earner would be a positive indication, but once divorce is in progress the women get the house, kids, CS etc. even when they make more than the Xhusband. Equal wage earner gets better lawyer and manipulates her financials. And that's just her playing by the rules.

Offshore only a suggestion, only point is that it is not visible, not accessible, and over three years old. Dissapation goes back three years. Let's say you give cash to a relative five years ago.

You MAY piss off the judge should you ever get to final hearing. 98% never make it there. Likely you will settle and have something to offer in negs or retain after getting railroaded. Maybe you could "borrow from a relative" and buy her out of alimony, buy more time with the kids, that "relative" could come in handy. Most lawyers don't want to go to court, especially with a man because they know the judge will probably be pissed off at both parties and especially the man at that point.

90% chance the house/equity will be given to her regardless, the lien will not dissappear. She can pay the loan and live there, sell it and satisfy the lein, or the bank will foreclose and get theirs. Give her what other assets? If there are no assets she can only take 65% of your paycheck. Adjust your income accordingly (another post). Sorry Jada, you can't squeeze blood from a rock no matter how bitter you are!