well it's finally started. Her atty came to the house today and talked to her. I called her to get an update. He did say regarding the house if she thinks there is equity, get an appraisal and ask for it. But she said she didnt think there really was any. So i'm not sure if she will fork out money for one or not. She told me the other night she feels the house is the only leverage she has against me (signing it over for a refi).

So her atty pretty much said we should work out as much as we could. He also said to get pension data but he wasnt clear telling her what he would do with it. I told her i'm pretty sure he meant that 'she' will have to hire a stat. guy to analyze it. Inferring that any number i come up with i'm sure she wouldnt trust.

of course then she said the pension is moot since she wont be living that long. I guess trying to make me feel bad about her condition.

and she wants all this over asap and since she will be moving far away, its doubly impt to get as much done as possible here and now, she doesnt wanna do anything once she moves. Said she cannot live here thru summer, it's just too hard.