a 50-50 split of assets and kid time is what's fair
AGREE-
we may disagree as to HOW to reach that fair result
AGREE- You just say it nicer than mean old me

wife has already offered him 50-50 time with the kids, he'd be well-advised to jump on that and get it in writing, set in stone as soon as he could... rather than mess around with trying to get 60-40
GOOD POINT - If he can get this much on paper as ASAP while she is agreeable then they can fight in court over alimony. Judges like to see partial compromises. He has a good shot at financial help through alimony, even permanent with a 20 year marriage.
Are you paying attention SAH?