I am trying to do a summary divorce here, which means we have agreed on the separation of community property, and just waiting on her to sign. Also, she has to have a mailing address, which she says she does not have. I told her last time she visited that she should just get a mail box, so I can send the papers to her, so far nothing. She is enjoying this, I believe she enjoys hurting me. She even went so far as to let him listen in on our conversations when I found out about the affair, I checked the phone bill, she just would set there with her bluetooth on, and I wondered why. I have a very hard time talking to her, I break down, you see, I still love her, after 18 years its hard to just break off the feelings, I do not like her much, but the love is still there. And the hurt is there daily. She is cruel, and yes very selfish, always has been. I will be glad when its done, but until It is, I have to deal with the daily stuff. I want her out of my life, but have children and will have to deal with her for a very long time. As to her staying here, I do not want her here, but according to the law, this is still her house too. I cannot stop her. Until the divorce is signed, I cannot do a thing, even get rid of her stuff. It sucks. The laws are not set up to help, they are not fair.