Go to Toledo. Let your hubby have the kids for the/his weekend and then spend Sunday night if possible at his house (sleep on the couch....) or at a close hotel. That way both mom and dad can be with the kids on Christmas morning. Remember this is about and for the kids. Make it the best holiday for them. The 2 adults should be able to get along and be happy like a family for 24 hours of Christmas. Remember...it's about the kids!