Hi, Please hang there. I know what you mean by "it is hard". My wife of 25 years informed me that she filed for divorce just after last xmas and moved out the begining of January. My kids are grown (college) but I still can not comprehend the hurt I am still feeling and I do not know when it is going to stop. My suggestions (1) see if he is willing to go to a therapist with you to save the marriage. However if there is a third party involved (an other women) it is difficult to get him to go, (2) get your own lawyer (3) look for a live support group around where you live. I suggest a wonderfull organization that I am using now called "DivorceCare". You can find out about them on the web at www.divorcecare.com
The organization meets once a week and I am at the 5th week and, beleive me I can not see myself missing any one of them. Try them.
Bottom line, there are people out there who have some understanding of the hurt you are going thru and you need all the support you can get. Also, a last advice: concentrate more on talking to female friend at this time.
Let us know how you are doing and Good Luck.