my ex was also in the military and im sorry you are having such a hard time. i dont know of any programs so to speak but if he deploys he will prob have to give you some kind of power of attorney... with that if he does put the car in storage you could get them out. thats just one option... second if its possible contact his unit chaplain... if he is abusing you or your kids you can go through his unit that is left back on rear d when he leaves... and i know despite all that you have heard about the frg that is probably going to be a good source for you as well... good luck